Some time ago, I did a blog post about rewards. I mentioned that certain behaviors elicit specific responses and that Mistresses enjoy rewarding a submissive, whether it be a special time together or by allowing him release from his chastity training. What I glossed over in that post is the flip side of the coin … that sometimes Mistresses enjoy punishing their submissives and there are those out there who seek that punishment.
Punishment can come in a variety of phases … and can be used for specific purposes. There are those who use punishment as a tool for keeping their submissive under control … a way of negative reinforcement which constantly reminds the submissive of who the Alpha is. Some use punishment as a tease … laughing as they playfully spank or tweak a nipple. Each serves it’s need … but which is used on whom and why would someone want one vs the other is a rather interesting debate.
Some might question how you punish the unpunishable, such as masochists. Does one simply refrain from punishing someone who so obviously enjoys the feeling of a paddle thwacking against the tender flesh of their ass? How would you punish someone who revels in the intensity of sensation, no matter how soft or harsh? What are the differences? How do you know what to do?
It is the responsibility of the Mistress to know what each person needs. To know whether a masochist needs to be denied punishment, for the sheer pleasure of it or if they require an intense, muscle numbing session which will leave them dripping with sweat (as well as a few other places!). Knowing where to touch, when to touch and how delicately to do so is something I have practiced … perfected … and can teach you to learn about your own body.
Sweet and Sensual or Cruel and Vicious, I can give you what you need … I am the Softer Side of Mean
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Hi Mistress Ryan, Great post.That just goes to show you that trust is a big part of a Mistress and slave relationship.
Hi Mistress Ryan,
Great post. That just goes to show you that trust is so important in a Mistress and slave relationship.
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